So much of our communication is subliminal.
All of those judgements and criticisms that you hold in your head and that you think are private, are actually not. I can assure you that people who perceive in energy can hear those thoughts in your head. It is as clear to them as if those thoughts were verbalized. Not only that, if those thoughts do not align with what you are physically saying, you will come across as insincere at best.
I was sitting in a café where people were very close to each other. A couple of friends met and sat down next to my table. One young woman was clearly self-conscious about her appearance. She was not comfortable in her own skin, and it was so obvious to me. It was painful to see. Without any outer cues, like a smile or anything, I just simply reassured her that she was attractive. I told her that she was very likeable and even beautiful. The results were dramatic. She immediately shifted from being meek and mild to being outward and engaging.
This showed me not only how vital the inner communications are, but also how actively we all engage in them whether we think we do or not. If you are not getting the results that you think you should be getting in your interpersonal relationships, perhaps you are telling people what you actually think of them through inner channels that aren’t lining up with what you are telling them outwardly.
To be an effective business leader with integrity, you must hold your actions as being beyond reproach. But equally, you must hold your “private” thoughts to the highest standards as well. Rule of thumb – if you do not want people to know what you are truly thinking, don’t think it.
Realize that your thoughts are not private. If I can know them, others can as well. If you are an opinionated person who is indulging in criticism in your head, you could improve your relationships drastically with others by disciplining your thoughts. If you are one to size up a person when you meet, you may have to consciously change the inner dialogue within yourself. Practice this on random strangers and see what happens. As you go through your day, greet random people with inner compliments and force yourself to change that criticism in to a positive. FORCE yourself to find something good about everyone you meet. If you practice this method enough, you will shift your interpersonal skills. This really works!
The SFT protocols that I offer can assist in making dynamic changes that may otherwise take decades to accrue.
Readers might like to experience the SFT taps for themselves …
Say each statement three times while tapping on your head, a fourth time while tapping on your head, and a fifth time while tapping on your abdomen.
All negative thoughts are eliminated from my repertoire; in all moments
All blockages to seeing the good in others is released; in all moments
All negative messaging is removed from my muscle memory; in all moments
Thoughts are all shifted from criticism to appreciation; in all moments
All offenses that have been accrued are expunged from my interactions; in all moments
Communications are upgraded from confrontational or adversarial to positive reinforcement; in all moments
All negative cues and unconscious insults are dissipated before being received by their subject; in all moments